“Manipulative behavior in children and teenagers often manifests as tactics to gain control, avoid responsibility, or get their way, frequently utilizing guilt or emotional outbursts.” 

Lets begin…

He would pee the bed on purpose and he told his dad this. The reason? Because his dad wouldn’t sleep with him.

Would tell his mother “secrets” about his time at our house that would cause her to accuse our household of mistreating him or speaking badly about her on numerous occasions.

Examples:

He punched my daughter and his brother in the face, wrestled with my autistic son, and then went home and told his mother that we allowed my son to wrestle and hurt him.

He told her that his father said she was out sleeping around all weekend.

He told her that I said he can give himself his medication and he doesn’t need an adult, when in fact I said that his mother should be giving it to him because he told me he was the one giving himself the medication.

He went home crying one time because he got in trouble for these lies and she called saying he was upset because he wasn’t lying and because she told his “secrets”.

The only thing his father and I would fight about at this point was his sons lying and how him and his ex thought it was funny and a game.

His father told her that the lying needed to be addressed and that maybe he should receive therapy. She then went on to say he was already talking to the counselors at school and it was all his (the fathers) fault. We reached out to all three of the school counselors and none were or had been seeing their son.

Brought bullets to school from their mothers house. When the social worker came to our house and asked the twins about it he looked at his brother and shook his head to say “don’t say anything”. He proceeded to say it was his fathers bullets. His dad corrected him by saying they were not his, he hasn’t owned any guns in over a year and he wasn’t even living there for over a year. He then continued telling a story of how his mom was always upstairs sleeping and his uncle was shooting guns in their backyard.

He has split his head open and broken his arm bad enough to get pins. Two different times in his mothers care.

One time the twins were getting dressed and I heard a loud thud. I knocked on the door and he said his brother was fine and I heard him crying. He had thrown his brother on the ground because he wanted the clothes he had.

I made it a rule in my house that they were not allowed to take showers or get dressed together. His brother seemed to appreciate that and felt safe.

Him and his cousin bullied my Autistic son more than once. When I found out, his cousin was no longer allowed over and He was never allowed alone with my children again.

The Boy Who Cried Wolf

He once told his mother at after school pickup that his dad set up a playdate and she almost left with the other kid. His parents thought that was funny.

His mother reached out to his dad to tell him that their other son was crying and it was because the other child “power slapped” him, and they laughed about it.

He told the after school counselors that an older kid on a bike rode by pointing finger guns at him and was threatening him. He told his parents who it was and his mother went screaming at their parents. Turns out it wasn’t that kid and he made it up.

Got in a fight with a kid in the after school bathroom. When they told him they would have to contact his father he broke out in tears saying “he backhands me”. They called CPS and he later denies saying it. Social worker told me that.

It got to the point that I told his father that his son was not allowed back in my home until he received counseling. His brother and my two children were not safe. His lies were involving CPS now and he couldn’t be trusted to be alone with the children in the house.

He did end up going to therapy for a year. She didn’t address any of the issues. She did let me know that I should seek therapy for everything I was being put through.

His father and I live in separate houses now. They take showers together again and his brother still gets abused by him, but its just “boys being boys”.

I was over one time and they were in the shower. I heard a couple of thuds and I was walking up the stairs. I heard his brother crying and I heard him say to his crying brother “now don’t do it again you hear me”. I banged on the bathroom door and asked what was going on. He said “my brother fell” I said “no he didn’t” I called their father up the stairs to go in and check on him. When he asked him what happened he said “He fell” and his crying brother said “I don’t know”.

He believed him.

I left.

His parents are aware he abuses his brother. They are aware he manipulates and lies to get what he wants. They don’t care. His brother deserves so much better than them.

His mother has shared on her tiktok “when did you realize your son was a psychopath” and she proceeds (laughing) to share their drawings and his is him murdering the family.

The last conversation I had with the social worker, she said it wasn’t going to get any better. She said I deserved better and I shouldn’t be dealing with these people.